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“And all of this will come true unless we choose to reverse it.”
August 24th, 2008 - Posted in Character, Destiny, Freedom, Goals, Mindset, Recovery, Videos | | 0 Comments
Who Is Your Opponent?
From The Great Debaters:
Who is the judge?
The judge is God.
Why is he God?
Because he decides who wins or loses. Not my opponeent.
Who is your opponent?
He does not exist.
Why does he not exist?
Because he is a mere dissenting voice of the truth I speak.
August 12th, 2008 - Posted in Character, Freedom, Mindset, Quotes, Resilience | | 0 Comments
Santana feat. Michelle Branch - I’m Feeling You
Sometimes I imagine the world without you
But most times I’m just so happy that I ever found you
Its a complicated web
That you weave inside my head
So much pleasure with such pain
We always always stay the same
I’m feeling the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the knick of time
I’m riding the highs I’m digging the lows
Cuz at least I feel alive
I never faced so many emotional days
But my life is good I’m feeling you
I’m feeling you
You go and then I can finally breath in
Cuz baby I know in the end you’re never leaving
Well we rarely ever sane
I drive you crazy and you do the same
But your fire fills my soul
And it warms me up like no one knows
I’m feeling the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the knick of time
I’m riding the highs I’m digging the lows
Cuz at least I feel alive
I never faced so many emotional days
But my life is good I’m feeling you
I’m feeling you
August 10th, 2008 - Posted in Freedom, Videos | | 0 Comments
The Story of The 2 Birds
This story comes courtesy of AbangAbu.
In a not too far away land, there was a tree. On its branch were two birds. One bird planned to fly away. How many birds are left?
Answer? Still two.
The bird just planned away. It didn’t take action.
August 9th, 2008 - Posted in Freedom, Goals, Mindset | | 0 Comments
How to Forgive Those Who Have Hurt You
Letting go. It’s hard when someone has caused you injustice. You feel pain, and deep unfairness. You ask questions about their actions, about what you did to cause such harm to yourself.
Why the lack of compassion.
Then it turns to anger. You slowly hate the person. The person stands for all things unfair. You cannot understand how they live their lives knowing they’re hurting you.
Then you suffer. You soon realize that whether they care doesn’t matter. The silence is real, and you are feeding it. You slowly think of other options. You know your body is aching. You know you should move on.
One day you decide to try. You try moving on. You open the windows once again. You breathe new light into your world. Your viewpoints of people slowly change. Friends become enemies. Enemies emerge as saviours. You carry on, you live well, yet you remember.
Time passes. You’re better off now. The pain is there, but you understand that you don’t have to take it in. You have a choice. Yes you remember, but you can press buttons now. You are doing well. You read literature that tells you about ultimate freedom, about forgiving those who have hurt you.
What do you do.
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Here is my advice:
- What you do to forgive depends on how well you are, in what stage you’re in. The first step is to forgive your enemy with your heart. You don’t have to talk to the person, you don’t have to tell anyone anything. You tell yourself, that you forgive them.
- The next stage is to slowly have the person’s good will in your thoughts. You pray for your enemies’ well being. You say that yes, they hurt me, but you can hurt others too. You grow.
- As time passes, you can move on to the final step: direct contact with the person. You apologize to the person for what you have done. You mention nothing of what they have done. You have arrived. You are wiser. If they start apologizing, you nod, accept and smile. You avoid being all philosophical. You know that sincerity sometimes is felt from the heart.
Forgive according to your capacity. If you can’t, take your time. There is no compulsion in step 3. If you can do step 1, and say it in your heart, then smile, for you have character many can only imagine.
When it comes to forgiveness, time is on your side.
August 8th, 2008 - Posted in Calmness, Forgiveness, Freedom, Recovery | | 0 Comments
Learned Helplessness
Do you bury yourself? Here is a checklist:
- Do you complain before trying?
- Do you allow negative sentiments to be verbalized?
- Are you pessimistic in achieving the impossible?
Learned helplessness is about you teaching yourself how to fail. It’s as cruel as that. The worst part is it’s become a habit, and you do so without realizing the slow damage it causes. Like a cancer of the mind, it stumps your growth even before you begin, and it always tells you that the glass is half empty, even before you see the glass.
The first step is to realize the condition. Now that you know, be more aware of whether you have learned helplessness from the thoughts you have, from the words you say, from the number of times you procrastinate.
Learned helplessness is a habit. Habits don’t define you. You can unlearn negative habits and install new ones. Time to uninstall the shovel, and grow the flowers. Discipline your mind, take care of your heart, take control of your future.
August 7th, 2008 - Posted in Character, Freedom, Goals, Mindset, Resilience | | 0 Comments
Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address
This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005. Source here.
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.
I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.
This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960’s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
Thank you all very much.
August 2nd, 2008 - Posted in Character, Destiny, Freedom, Goals, Mindset, Presentation, Recovery, Resilience, Videos | | 0 Comments
All Motivation is Self-Motivation
A quote I remember very well seeing back in my secondary / high school days some 10 years ago, pasted on the board. It went something like this:
“All motivation is self-motivation. Your family and friends can try and push you, but until you decide to act, nothing will happen.” - Anonymous
Agree?
August 1st, 2008 - Posted in Character, Destiny, Freedom, Mindset, Quotes | | 0 Comments
10 Time Management Savers
Time management, a skill that can separate the doers from the whiners. Be a doer with time on your side with my 10 tips:
- Recognize the Difference Between What’s Important vs What’s Urgent. Time wasters are tasks which are not urgent and not important. What we tend to do most of the time are stuff which are urgent and may not be important (e.g. answering every phone call). What you tend to neglect but will hurt you then in the long run are things that are important but are not urgent (e.g. exercise). The stuff that tend to stress you out in the adrenalin are those which are important and urgent. Thinking of tasks along these 4 quadrants allows you to see with a bigger picture where your time is going to, and whether it should be spent at another quadrant.
- Manage Chaos by Prioritizing Tasks. Be cool-headed, prioritize and clear tasks one by one.
- Learn to Say No. Recognize that your resources are limited, and you’d want to prioritize them on matters which you can contribute best. Pick and choose wisely.
- Invest Time in Building Your Personal Skills. The relationships and networks you build, plus the support base that comes with it, can help you with your endeavors in the long run.
- Have a “Do-Clear” Mentality. Feel the sense of joy at clearing each work.
- Break Up Big Stuff Into Little Bits. Thinking of big tasks in terms of modular components helps reduce the complexities and hence time in problem solving.
- Get an Organizer, and Use It. Trust me on this one
- Take Public Transport. This is the time to catch up on those magazines, books, newspapers.
- Watch How The Pros Do It, and Follow. Since it is on the topic of managing time and not so much of the process of discovery, learning from best practices beforehand will save you some time as supposed to jumping into murky waters.
- Nike. Don’t just think and think and think. Old school advice coming your way - Just Do It.
July 31st, 2008 - Posted in Freedom, Goals, Management, Resilience, Time | | 0 Comments
Punch Stress With Capoeira
Okay, this is alittle biased, but any martial arts will do. Participating in martial arts not only helps you to keep fit, but keeps your discipline and focus in check, two key ingredients in keeping stress at healthy levels.
One of my favourite martial arts forms has to be Capoeira. It’s way cool. But don’t be fooled, training in this art can be extremely tiring on the muscles and joints. However the result is flexibility and confidence. To prove my point, watch this video:
I don’t know of anyone who’s ever watched Capoeira and not felt excited and energized. Does martial arts help you to de-stress too?
July 31st, 2008 - Posted in Fitness, Freedom, Videos | | 0 Comments
